Mary DeSanto

I was born in Seattle, Washington on October 18,

1949. I am the product of a Catholic, Italian, alcoholic father and a

converted-Catholic, English, depressed mother. I am the middle child of 5

girls and 1 boy. I was physically, mentally, emotionally and

ritualistically abused as a child from time I entered my mother's womb

until I left home at the age of 18; it is this part of my life's experience

that is the greatest reason for my interest in being a part of WAVE. The

kind of violence I experienced, sadly, still exits today and it is my

heart's desire to see that it end totally and completely some day.


I am 47 years old, divorced, childless (except of course for my *inner

symphony* of child alters!), bisexual and feminist. I currently live alone

and work full time as the Coordinator of a Cancer Research Program in an

outpatient clinic situated in a local hospital. I also work with survivors

of trauma from abuse, all ages, from infants to older adults.


One of the things I learned as a child was that I was valuable for what I

did, not for who I was, but for what I did. I therefore began at the age

of 8 taking care of others and have spent nearly all of my adult life doing

so in the medical profession. I have an Associate Degree in Nursing and a

Bachelor of Arts degree in Developmental Psychology and Loss/Grief. I have

worked as a nurse for 26 years, the last 10 of which have been in the field

of mental health. I have worked with people of all ages in both acute

hospital and community based settings. I have worked with children who

were differently abled, teenagers who were considered incorrigable, adults

who were mentally challenged and incarcerated in one kind of institution or

another and older adults who were labelled as mentally deranged; none of

the labels which I agreed with for one second. I have participated in the

development of local organizations that work towards the healing of

survivors of violent acts and the promotion of self-esteem in children and



Seven years ago, I began a journey into my past, I uncovered emotional,

mental, body and cellular memories of horrific acts of violence to my

person. I was fortunate enough to find people who helped me begin to see

that I was valuable for who I was and I am now able to walk in the world

(most of the time anyway!) with a sure knowing that I am lovable and

capable....the two main ingredients for self-esteem. I believe that in

order to actualize a vision of world peace, we must first create peace

within ourselves for without this we have nothing to offer the rest of the

world. We must also set a table for our most precious resource, our

children, to partake in the knowing that they are lovable and capable human



For the past two years, I have been sharing and working with survivors of

abuse in the cyber world. I take great pleasure in chatting with and

meeting the people on this extraordinary pathway and reaching into the very

deepest forms of communication which are only possible in this setting. I

have become a part of an incredibly large, worldwide 3D and cyber family,

not one of whom I believe would not support the mission and vision WAVE in

one way or another.


I look forward to working with each of you in making our world a peaceful

place to BE.


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